Horses teach us unexpected lessons in leading with wisdom
My entry point into self-development and building a positive self-image began unexpectedly – with horses. They showed me something powerful:
A fundamental desire shared by humans and horses, sentient beings alike: a deep connection and a sense of belonging. ♥️
We all yearn to be seen, heard, and valued, to contribute to something larger than ourselves. But how do we create this connection and bring it into our daily lives?
Renowned researcher Brené Brown defines connection as:
"The energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship."
By embracing this definition in our interactions, we build deeper relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.
Horses have a remarkable way of revealing our blind spots. To forge a strong connection with them, we must first see ourselves clearly. We must allow them to express themselves freely and create an environment where the relationship empowers them.
Don't we all crave relationships where our human awkwardness isn't punished, but embraced as an opportunity for deeper understanding, honesty, and self-awareness? Just like with horses.
You Can't Force a 500 kg prey animal to follow Your Lead
Traditionally when we worked with horses, it involved dominance and disregard for the animal's needs. Thankfully, we're moving beyond that. Now, we strive to understand their fears and desires, letting go of our preconceived notions and usual communication methods.
We must listen with empathy and objectivity, replacing force and frustration with genuine understanding. As the saying goes, "When we know better, we do better."
The way a horse responds in our workshops offers a powerful mirror, reflecting how we show up for ourselves and others. In life and work, our self-awareness in handling difficult situations impacts the quality of our relationships. This, in turn, shapes our impact on families, communities, and broader groups.
There is Power in the Parallels
Just like our interactions with horses, it all starts with everyday connections. They matter. We need to cultivate compassion over perfection, empathy over judgment, accountability over punishment, and repair over despair. We must choose common humanity over dehumanisation.
By building relationships rooted in mutual respect and understanding, we can create work environments that foster collaboration, innovation, and success.