Growing up, I didn’t have a lot of conversations around goals. In fact, the word itself used to make me feel a bit uneasy. I didn’t grow up surrounded by big dreams, vision boards, or ambitious targets. What I did grow up with were conversations and systems built around scarcity. A small regional town, limited resources, and a lot of “just getting by with what we had, making things work, and keeping afloat.”

Goals felt like a loaded trap. Something you could aim for but miss, and missing hit hard. So, I just didn’t. I didn’t know how to dream big or even allow myself to think about what was possible.

Survival Over Success

Fast forward to my early 20s: a young mum, a young wife, navigating adult responsibilities. My husband and I had made a huge financial commitment, buying his family’s third-generation farm. It wasn’t glamorous, it was high input, low reward, and an enormous commitment.

It was delayed gratification, long days, and constant push. Thriving? That felt like a luxury for other people. I wasn’t thinking about more because I didn’t have the energy to add anything to my already full list. I was just getting through each day.

When you’re in survival mode, thriving feels unattainable, like it’s reserved for others.

Why Goals Can Feel Like Pressure (And Why That’s OK)

We live in a world where the internet and social media bombard us with perfectly curated lives. We’re told to aim for 6-figure businesses, spotless kitchens, perfect bodies, big houses, and endless motivation. Yet, we often find ourselves just getting through what’s in front of us, questioning, “Is this all there is?”

Another push, another task to tick off. It can feel exhausting.

But what if you don’t have to do it that way? What if this stage of life is about something different for you?

When It Feels Spinning, Stuck Or Muddy; Trust the Process

If you’re feeling lost or stuck right now, if the road ahead feels thick and muddy, it’s not failure, it’s growth.

Here’s what I’ve learned: every time life feels heavy, every time you feel unsure or uncomfortable, it’s a signal that you’re on the brink of something new. Your identity is shifting. You’re in transition. You’re expanding.

Growth doesn’t have a clear path. It’s messy, unfamiliar, and uncomfortable. And that’s OK. Because on the other side of this discomfort? That’s where you’ll find a version of yourself you’ve never met before.

Every previous version of yourself, the one who overcame, the one who grew, started with uncertainty.

What Matters Most to YOU?

As we stand on the edge of a new year, I want you to let go of the idea that you have to have it all mapped out and get ready with unlimited energy to smash things out. Instead, try a slower, deeper approach on for size.

I want you to ask yourself:

Who am I right now?
What truly matters to me in this season?
Where is my emotional compass guiding me?
What lights me up when I feel aligned ?

Stop comparing yourself to someone else’s highlight reel. Your life doesn’t have to look like theirs.

A New Way to Approach the Year Ahead

This year, instead of aiming for perfection, relentless pursuit or smashing “goals” that don’t feel like yours, try this:

🌱 Prioritise yourself over comparison.

🌱 Focus on what feels right. What lights you up - what depletes you what completes you?
🌱 Trust that the muddy, messy parts are where your next level growth happens.

You don’t have to rush it. You don’t have to force it. Just take one intentional step forward and trust the process.

Step Into Who You’re Becoming

If you’re standing at a crossroads right now, unsure of what’s next, let this be your reminder:

You’re not stuck. You’re growing.

The next version of you is unfolding. Your identity is evolving, and that’s not something to fear, it’s something to embrace.

When you stop comparing, stop outsourcing, and start listening to what matters most to YOU, you create space for a life that feels aligned, purposeful, and true.

This year doesn’t have to be about “new you.” It can be about coming back home to the real you. Who you already are , what you already have within and who you are becoming. The versions of your self you are yet to meet.

You don’t have to figure it all out tonight. Just take that first intentional step. Even when your path isn’t clear.

Happy New Year 💫

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